One, much affirmation, encourage the child
When the child encounters a setback, care and parents ought to encourage the child in time, comfort to the child, encourage and help necessarily, make the child won't feel alone and helpless.
At this moment, parents should avoid inactive and negative opinion as far as possible, be like " did not retry, retry also otiose " , " do bad to was not done " , " how so stupid, others is early finished " etc, what this kind of word meets aggrandizement child only is not self-confident feel with failure, the parent mights as well the evaluation that uses a few active affirmation. Be like " although you do not have a success, but I should praise you, because you have courage,go trying very good. " " you must believe yourself, father mother believes you can go. " making the effort that can make the child realizes him so is to affirm and be praised, oneself need not fear completely to fail, the society suffers and deal all sorts of difficult setbacks slowly thereby.
2, the true attitude that develops the child to treat a setback
As the child, often do not stabilize to the manner of the person all round and thing, suffer the effect of the element such as the mood easily, when coming up against difficulty and failure, they often can generate negative sentiment, cannot treat failure and setback with true attitude, at this moment, the parent should tell the child in time, "Failure is not terrible, you want only brave, can have done certainly " , "Draw a lesson from inside failure, have a look how to be done next time " . The parent should regard educational chance as the child's failure conciously, guide the child to hearten bold and self-confident ground tries again afresh, in the meantime, educational child dares to face difficulty and setback, rise overcome difficulty and the ability that fight a setback.
3, the opportunity that offers the child to take exercise
The parent should improve knowledge, change original breeding attitude, those who let the child walk out of adult " protection is encircled " , unlock hands or feet to not be afraid that the child is falling, meet move, hungry move, tired move, child trip encourage him himself to climb; Feed to carrying, the child of partiality for a particular kind of food, anorexia, hungry he 9 might as well. The child's thing lets him himself do, the problem parent that oneself can solve does not help, for example, want him toy to take, the dress, him trousers is worn, in domesticity, want to arrange the child to do the thing of a few in one's power, must not resolve the difficulty in child growing process, the obstacle that advances them keeps clear of neatly.
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