At all times and in all over the world, did not teach bad child, meet the parents that teach and won't teach only. The method that the parent uses is appropriate, affecting the result that the family teachs directly. As the parent, I very asymmetry duty, more without the success but character, but I am willing to think what the family teachs a respect confide to come out, if have undeserved, return rare connoisseur not stint to give advice or comments.

Above all, the family teachs a method to have 3 fear:

One avoid: Channel is onefold, or responsibility chooses the school completely or leave oneself educational liability education completely. Perhaps think only normal education just calculates education, flat perhaps no matter pay no attention to, hold the post of its to develop freely, return good name its say " tree nature is straight " . Choose the school completely, be pair of children actually is irresponsible, school education is admittedly important, and social civilization rate is higher, school education has the educational function that other education structure cannot replace. Teacher of student recall with deep emotion, can say " teacher resembling mother is same " but when hearing the child thanks mom rarely, say " mom resembling teacher is same " loving this respect, mother love or slightly better, take responsibility to oneself completely same not clever, because have a lot of things, the parent can not do, e.g. , systematic knowledge imparts, manage changes training of experiment, sports to wait, this and do not say, talk with teaching a method, the parent also may not is brillant the teacher at the school.

2 avoid: One-sided requirement. Emphasized in the past " moral education " important, other everything does not want, want a mitzvah only. Since since restoring the university entrance exam, become everything not to want again, the mark is treasure. Very much now place, because see others gets rich, urgent red eye, change everything not to want then, earn money best. Occurrence child labour of city of a few provinces, some parents are press the child, revulsive child, let children be dead set goes making money to be denounced even, go stealing, go grabbing, without place not as good as, this is extremely unprincipled coordinate not quite with modern culture again " strange embryo " . All the different kind all inferior, earn money only tall. Have pity on heart of the world parents, it is what makes your be obsessed, think up such shortsighted view, so so muddleheaded, abominable idea? Long-term since, china poor, lag behind, an all in all reason, the quality that is a person is poor. If we cannot let next our generation learn well, become the successor of literate full-scale development, that will make a gross error, become the guilty person of disgraceful trace below bake in a pan of the generation on Chinese history.

3 avoid: Means is backward. The cause that causes means to lag behind is gutty kind, traditional pattern, follow listen to a talk only, forbid to quiz. See the child is wrong, be about at every turn v/arc an admonitory talk to subordinates, still forbid answer back. One answer back becomes big question. "You are wrong, I can say you, you are right, say you a few, you should ' have what change, without increase strive to do what is beyond one's power ' " . Most children of be disgusted with quizs, ask to get angry. With the child that education of this kind of method goes, either spirit is dispirited, become flunky disposition to example, did not have when servile disposition repeatedly even. Everything is you say I work, you make me go. Chinese brains is clever, the world is famed, the skilled personnel spreads all over all industry country. Manage a person however not much, social activist it may not be a bad idea resembles having China sacred place only this place is more dynamic, investigate its reason, concern with means of traditional culture, traditional education, want to make our offspring exceeds us, cannot all apiration that pressing oneself go transforming them, and condition of the society that should use up oneself greatest effort to surmount us to their creation, family.
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