On March 27 morning, zhengzhou a girl that controls 15 years old does not buy tire for oneself because of the mother, tongue-lash bad language to the mother in the street, and fan she two a slap on the face. Immediately the tear sheds the mother more than. Below the interference that prevents team member in make one's rounds, ground of firm of this girl firm says to the mother " you come home to me waiting " .

Not come singly but in pairs. On March 21 " neat Lu Wan signs up for " report, jinan one girl did not buy the clothes to her because of the mother, two people produce conflict on the bus, shout: "Why are you bought to me! " subsequently, unexpectedly hold tight lives maternal collar, strike the mother violently, the passenger is dissuaded by shout abuse.

We cannot regard them as merely a case.

In traditional Chinese society, the parent has absolutely authority to children, can beat and scold to filial random. Nevertheless, this kind of idea basically was done not have today. However, appeared again another extreme -- children plays father and mother. This can'ts help making a person thoughtful, why does Chinese parent go up in filial education so easy go to extremes?

In two reports, by batsman all be a mother, be worth us to think. Below the Jiaohua mode of traditional society, the dominant of parent authority person it is father, is not a mother, the to parental part main provision in Chinese traditional culture is severe father loving mother. The certainly that typical father is gravity person, weigh the Confucian or feudal ethical code and light feeling, and the mother is acted warmth, kind, caress, good-tempered, even the part that be addicted to bestows favor on.

Severe father loving mother is in " red Lou Meng " " Bao Yucheng teachs " the story is. Bao Yu is hit, mrs. Wang nots hesitate to be protected in order to die. And according to Zhengzhou this mother introduces, the girl's father opened a firm outerly, come back rarely at ordinary times, it is she takes care of a daughter in the home all the time. General child wants what to give, she had not refused. Can say, this girl hits Zhengzhou mother, with severe father loving mother this kind of lopsided sex is concerned.

In fact, below the case that should try educational dominant and vacancy of education kissing affection, parentage is in become rigid condition all the time. Chinese family education learns standing director Wu Fenggang to introduce, in the minor student that has contacted in him, almost the child of 70 ％ expresses occupied do not wish to communicate with the parent, the issue that child of close half the number considers give presents parents rarely... consequently, how to maintain " give presents parents " traditional goodness, what should become current moral education is important one class.

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