Today such environment falls, how should the parent teach the child?
In last few years my constant sees on newspaper " cannot let the child be defeated in the scratch line " the message of and so on, a few little girls are in of the parent next revulsive mixing bend uses up total heart " help " below, began the go all out in working of life early.
But, whether were the child and its parent experienced truly various " achievement " brings joy? A few parents oneself all hope all are placed in do not know well on the child body of affairs of human life, do not feel this is creating overweight pressure to the child? Say Orphean is burn one's boats, say a bit honester, these parents are noted as gambler detain simply, the future of the future oneself and child completely detain is in the child whether stand out this dish, the child is them " bet endowment " .
Every time I see can be pushed by parental end all sorts of competition ground or " groom class " the child, can't help associating in the zoo by the tiger lion of domestication. Haggard and dye-in-the-wood tiger lion is original vibrant, outdoors has extremely strong viability and life to erupt force. But, once be in the zoo to be boxed up, natural haggard be worn away gradually, appeared all the day without opportunity of survival, as time passes, they are moved even be disinclined to be moved, now and then suffer people to tease growl on one times, feel without a few people not only fear, can draw to see the yock with game or general farce instead. They lose nature completely and became human playing thing, offer only view and admire, does to him animal He Yizhi have? A lot of beasts that stay in the zoo all the year round are planted group of character degrading already was the fact that does not dispute. Those moves that be pushed by parents are being dragged be eager to contending for " the first " the child was used to a performance to look to the person as a child, even their study, life is for " performance " , besides inartistic, such life is too flat rather. The desire that become famous is in prematurely child heart take root, be sure to make they lose the natural energy of teenager nature.
We often hear a lot of parents that hope children will have a bright future to say everything what what we do is for the child, but children also are saying, everything what what they do is for not the expectation of disappoint parents and hardship, the child needs as doing not have his heart, everything their is controlled by parents, the effort that thinks parental need is him direction. The child has not known probably what to still should belong to him, they lost themselves " today " , also will not find what belong to oneself truly " tomorrow " . In these child hearts, they are parental hopes, it is parental pride, not be themselves however! I dare not believe, likely in the future " stand out " the ego that can make the child searchs to lose. For the child " future " must sacrifice their today's ego?
Letting the child is the child, fasten rapid move to call him to bear ambitious mission for the adult
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